OK here is the final (but condensed) story of my weekend and my friends being arrested.
On Friday night I make plans to hang out with my friends. I said we could celebrate the BF's b-day. (From now on B will be friend and J will be BF). So I'm tired but I feel like I need to be social, even though I have homework to do. I get there and as soon as B opens the door I see red stuff all over the floor. I see that it's blood. I see J crouched by the wall holding his head with blood streaming out. I immediately put my bag down and go up to him. I tell him to sit up and keep his head elevated and to keep applying pressure. I have him sit down and ask him questions to see whether he is in shock (thank you google!). I then begin cleaning up the blood and glass because they have cats. All the while B is on the phone with 911. It eventually took 4 calls plus a call form the cops to come and it took 25 minutes. And they live in the Wall Street area so one might think they have money and the EMTs would care.
Finally someone comes, but it's the cops and not the ambulance. They ask questions about what happened. I told them the truth that I wasn't there. So apparently B and J (BJ hahahaha, I'm 12) anyway they were arguing over a new thermostat that J installed that did not work. J has "anger issues" and started to strangle B. So B hit him in the head with the glass he had in his hand. Hence the blood and glass everywhere. So the cops call the ambulance AGAIN and they finally come. Cop 1 says that since neither of them want to press charges they can make it go away. They both wanted that. Cop 2 says they are both under arrested because it is a mandatory arrest offense. Umm OK arrest J for choking B, but why arrest B for defending himself? They BOTH admitted that J had attacked him! So after the EMTs finish with J I see them both being handcuffed and led out.
I'm not allowed to go with them even on my own to the hospital. So I wait in the apartment. B asked me to call his mom so I did. I actually spoke to both his parents. I tired to downplay the severity of the situation (domestic dispute vs, domestic violence, blah). I spend all night and morning trying to find them and barely sleep. I finally figure out where they are (central booking does not answer the phones on the weekend, neither do the courts, legal aid anything. I was lucky to find someone at the precinct who helped me.)
I went to the court (100 centre street) at 11 AM and found out it doesn't open til 1 PM!!! I went home, fed the cats and came back at 2:30 cause the guy said they wouldn't be seen before 4 PM. I went to the arraignment office and got some info. I was told B wasn't being charged. SO I waited and kept trying to find out when either of them would get out. I kept talking to B's mom. At 5:30 they said we had to leave for the dinner break. We all had to clear out of the building. Ridiculous. I went to eat and saw a missed call from B. He had been released and was at home/almost home. He accusingly asks if I am still at his place, like I was just comfy and didn't give a fuck. I told him I had been at court all day and left his house at 10 AM and was exhausted. I went home. It does suck that he was held 20 hours with no phone call and no food! That shouldn't be legal. I don't think it is.
Then I have B whining to me about how he and J can't live apart and J looked suicidal and blah blah they cannot survive through the night alone and one of them might do something bad to themselves. Real 14 year old bullshit. I do not want to be a part of this shit. Like grow up and get some counseling. They ruined my bday and Halloween and do not see an issue with this. They love the drama of being so tragically in-love and dysfunctional and codependent and annoying. Different from people who are stuck in abusive relationships because there was no shame, no fear. They both told the cops what happened. It wasn't an "I walked into the door situation." It was almost as if B wanted to make sure the cops knew it wasn't his fault instead of trying to protect J (not that he should protect him at all!)
Now J doesn't have a place to stay so he almost had to come here but thank goodness he didn't have to. I can't deal with that right now. Do i sound less than sympathetic to their plight? I suppose but they refuse to change their ways and are smart enough to know better. B refused to even call his mom because they have issues? Really then why the fuck did you make me call her? If I didn't I wouldn't have felt the need to wait all damn day. I have been in this situation before with a friend who loved the drama of her relationship and would cry to me when her BF was mean but take him back and side with him over me and make my life hell. I am not going to be triangulated into their relationship (not sure that was the word I wanted to use but whatever).
These are people who ALWAYS choose their BF or GF over me, their friend. But cry to me when things don't go well or run to me when they are single. I'm fucking done with this shit. My weekend was spent cleaning up blood and glass, on the phone and waiting at the court house. I have homework to do. i didn't get to do anything for Halloween and I lost one of my favorite gloves. Fucking A that pissed me off the most. I have a matching glove, hat and scarf set and now one glove is gone. I need to see if I can find some like it on Amazon and have it delivered.
So now I need to focus on myself. I won't drink this week cause it's making me fat/unhealthy. I'm going to work out every day again. I will do my homework and not focus on their drama. I am also going to start trying to find a guy for myself. I need to stop worrying about others' relationships and worry about my own.
10:35 a.m. - 2011-10-30
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